Relationships and Sexual Difficulties

Suzanne sees people with relationship and sexual difficulties. Suzanne Thomas is a London hypnotherapist who uses hypnosis, relaxation, self-hypnosis, mindfulness, NLP, imagery and visualisation within a counselling, therapy framework to help with relationship and sexual difficulties. She is a fully registered hypnotherapist practising hypnotherapy in London.

There are many areas where difficulties concerning relationships can arise:

  • meeting someone
  • making a relationship
  • sustaining a relationship
  • splitting up
  • heartbreak
  • loss
  • repeating patterns
  • communication
  • sexual difficulties
  • past traumas
  • interpersonal dynamics

Hypnotherapy and counselling for relationship difficulties

To talk about relationships opens a huge box, within which are many variations. There are relationships with one other person. This could be a partner, a parent, an authority figure, a pet or anyone else. There are relationships between people you know. There is, of course, your relationship with yourself or groups of people and these have their own page on this website called self-esteem and confidence. Within any relationship is space for many scenarios. As every person is unique, so every relationship is and the members of that relationship bring their own experiences and expectations to it. Every relationship offers hope and potential to learn, to grow, to live and love better. Within each relationship is also possibility for confusion and pain, through fear, disappointment or clumsiness in communication. My skills and experience cover the instances and scenarios that could be affecting you, offering detailed relationship therapy London clients of mine already benefit from.

The nature of attention received as a child is what that child grows up to label love and is what we seek to reproduce in a relationship. Mainly, we learn about relationships from observation and experience. Growing up, the closest adults, usually parents, are the prime examples of what a relationship is between partners, of how to be an adult man or woman and of how an adult is in themselves and in relation to others. Much of what we learn is useful and appropriate but some of what we learn may not be. All of this will impact on who we are how we make relationships through life.

Hypnotherapy and counselling for sexual difficulties

Sex is often a fantastically accurate mirror of everything else that is happening in a couple or in a single person’s life. What happens in the bedroom happens equally in the living room, the kitchen, the garden, the car… And vice versa.

The relationship London people have with me identifies issues and allows for making important changes to turn any negatives into positives and get relationships working happily and well.

In a relationship, if one or both people are stressed or depressed or ill, it’s likely that this will have an impact on their sex life, as it will if they aren’t getting on in one way or another. Furthermore, if either or both partners are experiencing difficulties in other areas of life, these may well impact on their sex life.

It could be that either partner is bringing particular sexual difficulties from their past which is preventing a good sex life.

All of the above are experienced as sexual difficulties when expressed by physical or emotional difficulty with sex.

Here are some tools and suggestions:

  • Listen to one of my relaxations with the aim of giving yourself a mini holiday.  Click on the Soundcloud link on the home page of this website.
  • Having discussed it first with your partner, toss a coin to see who goes first. Whoever wins the toss has a previously agreed time to speak, uninterrupted, while the other person listens. Five or ten minutes is good. When the time is up, even if the person is in the middle of a sentence, the other person has the same time to speak, uninterrupted, while the other one listens. The second person doesn’t have to respond to what the first person said. Try to express yourselves using, “I feel…” rather than, “You make me feel…”
  • Always say hello and goodbye when one or other arrives or leaves and do not go to bed angry.
  • Talk to someone. Talk to a friend but, if it has been going on for a while or seems particularly distressing or is impacting on your life, consider seeking professional help. See your GP. You can come to see Suzanne . You will find contact details right here on this website. If you live too far away to consult Suzanne, go to the National Council for Hypnotherapy or the General Hypnotherapy Register websites to find a well qualified hypnotherapist in your area.